Here's a great trick to make up and mend fences with your lover. It works for married couples or folks in committed relationships to smooth things out after having a spat. This is not a reconciliation spell to return a long-lost lover, or to rekindle relations with an ex that has moved out and moved on. Use this spell when there's no real threat of a break-up, say you've just had it out with your partner and he left with slammed doors to go sleep on his buddy's couch, BUT you know he'll be back the next day. I find this works miraculously for sulking husbands, sullenly steaming in a back room. There are also some relationships where the partners fight a lot - it's just a part of their nature. They're otherwise loving and are thoroughly committed to each other; they just go at it somewhat regularly and not necessarily in an abusive manner. Fortunately, my marriage doesn't fall under that category, but i find myself working this trick a few times a year with great success. Enjoy it and use it in the spirit of Peace.
1) You'll be making a sweet oil jar - what i call a balm jar. You need a sturdy glass jar like a mason jar. I use pint sized ones. It needs a tight-fitting lid. You can also reuse an empty and clean glass jar like a salsa jar or honey jar - just make sure there's no lingering smells.
2) Make two name papers - one for you and one for your mate. Get two small pieces of paper about four inches by four inches. For yours, write your name three times, one over each other, three lines total. Turn the paper 90 degrees, and over your name, crossing and covering them, write the phrase "Forgive and Forget" three times making a three-row tic-tac-toe looking grid. Since this is confusing for many folks, here's a sample photo using the name John Smith in pencil and the command "Forgive and Forget" in blue. You don't have to use two different color inks - i just did so the contrast showed better.
Make one paper for you using your name, and one for your mate using their name. Place the two name papers together, writing sides facing each other. Some people like to smear a little honey sandwiched between them as glue to further sweeten things, but i'll add that as an optional step. Fold the joined name papers toward you, rotate it and fold it toward you again, and continue until you can't fold it any more. You should have a small little folded wad. Place it in the jar.
3) Fill the jar 2/3 full with oil. Use the best natural oil you have on hand, preferably Sweet Almond Oil or Olive Oil. If you have neither of those, just use vegetable oil from your pantry. Baby oil is a total last resort as it's petroleum-based - not very lovey. I would make a quick run to the mini-mart to get some cooking oil before using baby oil, but do what you need to.
4) Add a heaping tablespoon of sugar to the oil.
5) Add an odd number of the following botanicals. Make sure they are all propertly dired or your oil will spoil. Use what you have; some are kitchen herbs for those who don't have a fully stocked curio cabnet - just be sure to pick 5, 7, 9, or 11 of these helpers:
Dried Roses - especially dried Roses or other Flowers your lover gave you in the past, Sandalwood, Myrrh, Basil, Majoram, Voilet leaf, Spikenard, Periwinkle, two Balm of Gilead buds, Sage leaf, Borage Flowers, Magnetic Sand, Pennyroyal, and/or Althea leaf (Althea root is quite smelly when hot infused in oil).
*If you wish to have make-up sex with your mate, you can add one or both of the following botanicals: Dried Ginger root or powdered Ginger, and Cinnamon bark. Only use this when tempers are not hot, because these spicy plants can inflame passions which may lead to hot-headedness. Add the mentioned ingredients to have productive make-up sex when your partner is sullen, sulky, depressive, and/or apathetic - not hot-blooded.
Add the contents of a vitamin e capsule to the mix as a natural presevative.
6) If you have a supply of condition oils, you may wish to add a few drops of one or more of the following complementary oils: Reconciliation, Happy Heart and Soul, Love Me, Peaceful Home, Marriage Blessing, Kiss Me Now, Heal-All, and Bless My Heart.
7) Stick your ring finger from your left hand into the balm jar and stir it, praying for reconciliation. Here's a great affirmative prayer for relasing and forgiving:
"(Name of lover), know that i am holding us in prayer. Enfolding you in love and understanding, i release any need to control outcomes for us. I am assured that God is in charge, and that Divine Love infuses our circumstance. As we go forward, i trust God to lead us in Divine Wisdom. Making right choices, we move ahead with Faith and Trust. Our desire is for the best for ourselves and each other. With unlimited Faith and understanding Love, we release and forgive."
Of course spontaneous prayer from your heart is always powerful.
8) Close the lid of the jar tightly, and set it in a cool water bath: a saucepan filled with cool water, the water at the level of the oil line in the jar. You don't want your water higher than the oil in the jar, and you especially don't want the water over the jar's top.
9) Heat GENTLY in the water bath. Set the burner on the lowest setting. You are warming the balm = warming your lover's heart, not heating up his temper, making him steam and boil with anger. Do not let the water get anywhere near simmering. It should barely steam, if at all. One of the points is that on low heat, it takes 10-20 minutes to warm. While it does, you are praying over the balm. Pray to release and forgive, pray the 23rd Psalm, repeat the above prayer over and over, and/or pray spontaneously from your heart. While warming the balm, you will usually be contacted by your mate to reconcile. He may call you, come home, or return to you from his sulking exile. Greet him with smiling open arms, as you have been working on releasing and dissolving your anger and hurt and you have already forgiven him in your heart.
10) If he has not yet come to you and the balm is warm, take it out of its water bath, and if he's home, you go to him. Sit down at his feet and lovingly apologize. Take off his shoes and socks and rub his feet using the balm. While stroking and massaging his feet, speak your desire to put your disagreement behind you and your desire to have a loving rest of your day/evening with him. He will soften to your words, and the foot rub using the balm will dissolve his anger and sweeten him to you. .You can also give him a hand and back rub with your balm - just don't use it on genitals.
If your lover has left your home, keep the balm on low heat all night if need be. You will have to turn off the burner for 30 minutes and then turn it back on, maybe repeating this as needed. Keep praying periodicaly while you tend to the balm, shaking it gently. In prayer, you will probably recieve guidance when your mate is open to an apology. Call him then and immediately reconcile, speak of no unpleasantness, and invite him back home. When he arrives, certainly releived, offer him a foot rub with your "special homemade herbal massage oil" ;-)
Each time you use the balm, add a little bit more oil and a pinch of sugar to freshen it. After about six months, the leafy herbs need to be spooned out or they may turn rancid. Bury them in your back yard or in a potted plant by yur back door. The roots and bark botanicals can stay in the jar indefinitely. When you go to warm up another batch, add new leafy herbs to replace the ones you removed. With use, your balm will get stronger and stronger not only from the herbal infusion but also through your concentrated prayers. Feel free to use this balm in peacetime as well. It will draw you and your partner closer and make your relationship more harmonious.
Here's the lyrics to a well-known spiritual titled "There is a Balm in Gilead"
There is a balm in Gilead
To make the wounded whole;
There is a balm in Gilead
To heal the sin-sick soul.
Some times I feel discouraged,
And think my work's in vain,
But then the Holy Spirit
Revives my soul again.
There is a balm in Gilead
To make the wounded whole;
There is a balm in Gilead
To heal the sin-sick soul.
If you can't preach like Peter,
If you can't pray like Paul,
Just tell the love of Jesus,
And say He died for all.
There is a balm in Gilead
To make the wounded whole;
There is a balm in Gilead
To heal the sin-sick soul.
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