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Won't a love spell back-fire?  I heard love spells were cursed magic, best to leave it alone; right?

My answer:

This is a common misperception, perpetuated largely by the modern Neo-Pagan/witchcraft magics.  In any event, i think this conversations brings up some interesting points about magic:

1) Do spells back-fire, ie. money spells that end up killing a wealthy relative for the inheritance, etc.?

2) When should you use magic and when should you just rely on actions in the physical world, and

3) Love spells and how genuine they are, whether they act against the free will of the target, and other effects that fall under the back-fire category.

Spells back-firing:  This has been talked about before by folks far more articulate than me.   Basically the idea of a spell back-firing is historically inaccurate.  It only exists in Neo-Pagan Witchcraft magics usually couched as the Law of Three.  This also includes an over-simplification of the laws of karma, an Eastern religious dogma, manipulating it to be something instant: I do something bad and then immediately something bad will happen to me, etc.  This takes nothing of reincarnation and working through lifetimes of karma into consideration.  It's a total incomplete revision. 

No other magics - that i'm aware of - have such dogmatic constructs.  Folks have been cursing each other, doing coercive magic, love magic, etc., since the dawn of time.  If there was such a back-lash, folks would have learned their lessons a long time ago and these types of spells would have gone by the wayside.  This topic deserves its own article, and certainly they exist out there online, so i'll leave it be for now. 

Just in sum: no, magic does not back-fire.  If you get negative seemingly-related consequences, you most certainly thought them into being.  The mind is a pretty amazing manifest-er.  In some magical traditions you are counseled to take a spiritual bath after doing heavy work.  Is this to prevent magical back-lash?  No.  It's more of a spiritual confessional, wiping the slate clean, an opportunity for cleansing prayer, and to close the chapter on a not-so-pleasant event.  I like this a lot.

The main points, though, when discussing magical reprecussions are that, yes, you should live by the Golden Rule, people should treat other with compassion and kindness, etc.  But do we really need some sort of dogmatic fear tactics to keep us on the straight and narrow - for example The Law of Three or eternal damnation/salvation?   I know i don't.  Frankly that's part of the reason why many people i know turned away from organized religion to begin with: "I don't need no religious 'laws' to tell me what's right and what's wrong!"

You can search around on any magical forum or message board for like two seconds and you can see for yourself the silly things people are using magic for.  Magic will not solve all your problems.  It will not miracle results while you sit around on your butt watching tv.  If you believe this then you have no business casting spells or paying someone to cast them for you.

Magic should not be a first line of defense.  As it pertains to love magic, or any magic, you should really do the hard work before resorting to a spell.  Improve yourself, go out in public, meet people, dump your crappy ex, move on emotionally, stop attracting the wrong people, stop making stupid choices, etc.  Then use magic to give yourself a boost.

Yes, it's ideal to say don't resort to magic, but i've been involved in counseling people for long enough to know that it isn't always so cut and dry.  There are MANY justified love spell workings, in my opinion. 

The women who's completely dependent on her roving husband.  She has small children, would be financially devastated on her own, has no family or friends to support her, loves the man, and she wants to do magic to keep her generally kindly husband faithful and committed.  Is this wrong, would you tell her to get a life, move on, and develop her own independence?  Sure, that's the ideal, but it'll never happen.  That's not what she wants!  Maybe what's best for the family/the children is that this non-abusive but flirtatious man stays with them.  I withhold my jugement, withhold my higher-than-thou, you-must-take-the-high-road-only, impractical, elitist ideals and just help her with her goals.

Or how about the chronically nerdy 35 year-old man, who's never been with a women, never been kissed, never had a girlfriend?  He's suffering because of his lack in this department.  Yes, he should learn social skills, etc., but in addition to his efforts on the physical, should he not benefit from a magical boost?  I think so.

How about a woman who was damaged emotionally from a bad divorce?  She's done all the counseling, all the spiritual work, the healing, given it time.  She now wants a new love but is a little scared and is looking for some spiritual work to help her iron out her intentions.  Should she not do a love working?  Should i tell her it's unethical?

These are just a few quick scenarios that are not all that uncommon.  Yes, there are a lot of juveniles out there using love magic foolishly, but guess what?  It won't work.  It's as simple as that.

Love spells will not turn the target into a mindless love-zombie. 

Love spells will not turn a cold fish into Cassanova. 

That's not how magic works any way.  People give it too much credit.  The true magical heavy-weights typically don't dabble with spells that are not justified.  Your average highschool student who's obsessed with a boy is not going to turn him into her love slave - they're just not that skilled.

Love spells work on the love a person has in their heart to give.  It will not change a person; at most it will just give you their best.  Magic will not put a polish on a rotten, worm-eaten piece of wood.

Can you do harm with magic?  Yes.  Can you influence the will of another?  Yes.  It's just not as dramatic as the movies make it out to be until you're an adept, and most folks using the stuff are not.

Is your love spell going to back-fire and make your target an obsessive stalker?  Only if your guy is a stalker to begin with.  Is your love spell going to turn your target into a mindless love zombie?  Only if the target was a spineless, thoughtless, weak-minded person to begin with.

So you want to do love magic?  Work on your own heart first.  Heal your own love issues, and then see how people flock to you.  Work on your self-confidence - use magic if you wish.  Enhance your personal magnetism.  That should be your first magical line of offense.  Then tinker with love spells.

Just my two cents...